I have been struggling with a personal dilemma about honesty. So I am throwing it out to you. Is honesty the best policy? I am not referring to the honesty that we have with ourselves. To me, if we cannot be honest with ourselves how can we possibly be honest with those around us?
There are some very critical traits we must all possess and carry out when it comes to nurturing healthy relationships. Whether that relationship is with a spouse, family member or your best friend those traits should never waiver. Respect, trust and honesty are crucial qualities that create a strong foundation for any relationship to grow and flourish. So then what do you do when you see someone you love continue to dwell in their pain and you know this lingering is preventing them from being able to move forward? Do you continue to let them drown in their misery or do you make a stand and throw out a life preserver because you want to get them back to drier land?
I know for many of us we struggle with the decision on what role do we play when we want to help someone find their way back. We review the kind of support we have given thus far to the one in need and see that this approach is not helping them. We decide that perhaps a tougher and very honest way might be the method to finally get our loved one’s attention. Here is where the struggle within us begins. Will this person accept and see that your honesty is being given because of how much you care or will the delivery of the honest truth only add more pain to their all-ready damaged spirit?
In reviewing my choice to take the tougher approach to help my wounded friend, I regret that this one incident was the beginning of the end for what was once a beautiful relationship. I have lost many sleepless nights over the disintegration of this friendship, but if I had to do it all over again I would not change a thing. True and loving honesty is both good and bad. We are not being true to ourselves, and to those we love, if all we ever say is only the good and hold back the bad and sometimes, the ugly. When we are lovingly honest with each other our hope is that it will lead to goodness. Honest(y) to goodness!