No one is immune to the rough patches in life. You know it’s true because it’s happened to you. You are walking through life minding your own business and then ‘poof’ something happens that knocks you onto your tukkis. Perhaps you had a clue that things were about to change but then again, maybe not.
Years ago when darkness seemed to follow me wherever I went, I decided to take a closer look at the clues surrounding my unhappiness. I became my own ‘Columbo’ (minus the wrinkled trench coat, glass eye and disgusting cigar) and was determined to solve the mystery. Carrying a notebook, magnifying glass and having a good sense of smell I officially went to work my own case.
The first place I had to start was to identify what was causing my turmoil. As I carefully dusted the evidence in hopes of finding the perpetrator’s fingerprints, I hit the jackpot. It was an open and shut case. It was time to pull in the main suspect and have a talk with them. After hours of interrogation they finally confessed to the crime. The guilty party was me!
The examining and grilling was difficult but so worth it in the end. I walked away feeling drained but happy with what I discovered. My biggest fault was that when unpleasant things would come into my life, I chose to settle in the misery of it instead of celebrating the lesson it was trying to teach me.
Choices are a crap shoot. Some work and some don’t. The ones that don’t are the ones we consistently focus on. We view them negatively; however, they are ones that specifically come to us in order to help us find our purpose in life.
If you are willing to go undercover and dig deep for what is ‘really’ causing your unhappiness, I know that it will only be a matter of time before you too, will successfully solve your own mystery.
Tags: Change, Choices, Courage, Letting Go
ahhh, Kim. wise words just when i need them
Having a difficult time and yes, i have been settling in the misery of it !
It is so hard to climb out though, it has become a bit of a bad habit lately.
So i will go back and do my detective work again – maybe start with reading Tasting the rain again which was such an inspiration first time round.
Thank you xxx